IMPROVE YOUR MARRIAGE - Don't Overlook The Obvious
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IMPROVE YOUR MARRIAGE - Don't Overlook The Obvious |
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Help others find this article: Digg It! or Bookmark it! Share INCENTIVES TO CHANGE Provide meaningful incentives What would it take for you to stop twirling your hair, or biting your nails, or screaming less at the kids, or being on time? At one time or another, we all want our spouse to start or stop doing something. Whether it's an action that annoys or upsets us. Or, an attitude that we puts us off, hurts us, or gets us angry. Or... Some of you might say, "But I do ask nicely. I just have to do it over, and over, and over... And, still little or poor results!" - Others might say, "I offered to rub her feet if she did." - Still others, "I told him that I would make his favorite dessert!" What we miss is the fact that most of us want to receive something in return for changing behavior or attitude. And, we want it to be meaningful to us! - The fact that one enjoys a good cheesecake does not mean that they would be willing to make a major change for a one time or even occasional piece of the delectable delight. Now,
if they were offered the opportunity to go bowling every week without being nagged, well 'maybe' they would change. Or, perhaps they would love nothing more than to get a backrub, every week.
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